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I wish I knew this when I was about 14 years old, waking up with a wet boxer and remembering that I kissed Ada in my dream. Knowing that I couldn’t tell anyone about it because I had watched movies that called it a demonic attack. So many young people suffer this and do not know what to do. So what exactly is a wet dream?
In medical circles, it is referred to as nocturnal emission and it occurs it mostly in adolescents, it can also occur in adults. Usually, it occurs while they are sleeping because of a dream which may or may not be sexual in nature. You do not have to be sleeping with a “spirit husband or spirit wife” according to some religious beliefs in this part of the world
Some people believe that masturbation during sleep causes it but this is not true. You can have a wet dream without dreaming about sexual activity and sometimes become aroused sexually due to stimulation from friction with the bedding. Some studies say that lying on your stomach makes having a wet dream easier. This has not been proven.
Women can also have wet dreams but men are more prone to having “wet dreams”. It may or not result in a discharge as it does in men.
When it is the most common?
Wet dreams are commonest during puberty and adolescence, this can be as a result of hormonal changes that occur during this time. As a person gets older, the hormone levels become more stable hence the frequency of wet dreams tend to fall as a person gets older.
Does this mean I am sick?
No, wet dreams are not symptoms of sickness. It is a normal event. It is not a symptom of a sexually transmitted disease.
I have never had wet dreams, Am I normal?
Yes, not everyone will have wet dreams, some people never experience it throughout their lives and they are perfectly normal. Others may have sparse dreams while some may have it all their lives. Others stop having it as soon as they reach adulthood. It is highly variable.
Will it reduce my immunity?
No, having wet dreams will not reduce your immunity in any way at all. In some circles, it may predict that your sexual health is intact.
Will it shrink my penis?
Let me say this: There is nothing that has been proven to make a penis shrink. Cold weather may appear to shrink it but this is only temporary. However, it is safe to say that having wet dreams will not shrink your penis.
I have a lot of wet dreams, what do I do?
First off, you need to understand that it is a normal part of life. It is not a disease or “spiritual attack”, this will help you reduce the anxiety associated with having wet dreams.
There has not been any proven method to prevent wet dreams so far.
Some say that having more sex will reduce the frequency but at the same time, having wet dream does not mean that a person is not having enough sex.
Speaking to a psychologist might help. Or, it might not.
Conclusion
Nocturnal emissions are purely normal and do not imply that something is wrong with you. Understand this helps you live with it. You might experience some embarrassment, other than that, it is perfectly normal.
Live your fullest life, nothing is wrong with you. You are not possessed by a demon or married in another realm.
Live your best life.
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I believe wet dream is not spiritual attack. It is biological as explained here. On the other hand, the more you engage your mind on sexuality is the more it affects your dreams at night which in turn triggers nocturnal emission. Same way a boy who plays football so much can wake up suddenly in the night and shouts “give me the ball” because he’s playing football in the dream.
Thanks Mr Dick
Spot on as always. Thanks for the continued eye-opener.
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I used to think its a one-off thing during puberty, now I know better. Thanks Doc
Wonderful and educational.
Thank you.
I feel it is time that people start realizing that many things we run to our religious institutions for have actually been defined by science and solutions have been proven for many of them.
Thank you again
Thanks doctor
Nocturnal emissions is a natural occurrence I totally agree with you. It also occurs sometimes out of multitude of business and most times it occurs as a Physiological way of emitting accumulated semen for guys who has not had sex for a very long time.
Way cool! Some extremely valid points! I appreciate you writing this article and also the rest of the website is extremely good. Peggy Ase Angelina
I have lived with the mentality that having wet dreams means you have a spiritual wife or husband, and with that your destiny could be manipulated.. causing delay and dryness in life.. This is something that i find so difficult to believe but when i discourse it with my wife she always say something is not right, is like attack is coming, then next thing who is the woman you saw in the dream, try and confront her physically and shout at her never to repeat that.. i go just quite de look, shuooo.. This as really destroys many peoples beliefs and it affect there mental health because it impact fear on them.
The truth is that those who have the spiritual issues can tell you the differences too.
Amazing. Dr I think awareness of this should be made especially among adolescents/puberty boys, so they won’t feel like they have some democratic attack when they experience it and parents should as well be encourage to talk to their children about this because during my days no one told me about it( when it happens I always think something was wrong with me) I actually figured it out when I got to Med school. Thank you so much for the write up it is wonderful.